Dear Devin,
"Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it." Proverbs 22:6
May 4, 2018 marked a turning point in our lives, a day that forever altered the course of our journey. The news of your mother's passing shook me to my core, even though she had prepared us for this inevitable moment.
At just 8 years old, you faced a reality that no child should have to deal with. I recall watching you during her funeral, observing your composed demeanor as you absorbed the weight of the occasion alongside your siblings. Later, amidst the smiles and laughter with friends and family, I saw glimpses of a young heart wrestling with an immense loss.
Your mother's absence created a void that words can barely begin to describe. The grief that overcame you, even in moments of joy, was a force to be reckoned with. Yet, your resilience and strength have been nothing short of inspiring.
Over the years, I've come to understand that your pain is as unique as your journey. You often voice your frustrations with a piercing question, "Do you know what it was like when my mom died, and I left everything I ever knew?" Yes, Devin, I do know. I want to share my own experiences with you, to bridge the gap between us.
Your mother and I shared countless conversations, one of which resonates profoundly to this day. She entrusted me with a responsibility that I hold dear – to raise you with unwavering love, to preserve your connection to her legacy, and to nurture your growth into the remarkable young man she knew you could be.
The day you moved in with us was monumental. Your excitement was palpable as you entered your new room, hesitatingly asking if it was truly yours. Witnessing you inspect the photographs on the wall, especially the one capturing your mother's strength in the midst of her own pain, reminded me of the resilience she wished for you.
As the days turned into weeks, we navigated life together in your dad's absence. I watched you face your fears head-on as he deployed to Iraq, and your strength in those moments was a testament to your character. Your passion for football provided an outlet, and the joy you exuded on the field illuminated the strength within you.
I've witnessed your journey through the ups and downs, the frustrations and moments of understanding. Our introduction to grief counseling marked a turning point, a path towards healing that led us to professionals who understood your unique needs.
Today, you stand at the threshold of adolescence, a testament to your resilience and strength. I want you to know that my commitment to you is founded on love, respect, and a profound belief in your potential. My guidance, at times firm, stems from a place of deep care for your growth into a young man who embodies discipline, morals, and integrity – qualities that your mother held dear.
I'm not your wicked stepmother, but a guide and supporter on this journey. My purpose is to help you become the man your mother believed you could be. In this partnership, we learn and grow together, embracing the values that will shape your path.
Your mother's legacy lives on through you, her spirit interwoven with your journey. Together, we'll face challenges, celebrate victories, and ensure that her love continues to flourish within you.
With love and boundless support,
Mom
